I believe you may be looking for the following advanced priv options:
v3-connection-drop
enable-ejukebox
This is how the options should ideally behave:
1) -ejukebox-enable true, -v3-connection-drop true
2) -ejukebox-enable true, -v3-connection-drop false
These two will exhibit the same behavior when rewinds are exhausted. The filer will return EJUKEBOX.
3) -ejukebox-enable false, -v3-connection-drop true
With this set of options, the filer will drop the response and close the connection. Clients will reconnect after a few seconds and retry the request.
4) -ejukebox-enable true, -v3-connection-drop false
With this set of options, the filer will drop the response, but will not drop the connection. This will cause the clients to timeout on the RPC request and retransmit. Some times this will take a few minutes, depending on the client.
Option #3 or #4 sounds like what you might be looking for, but you could always test out each combination to see what you prefer.